For me, my work wardrobe was pretty good, but my casual clothes were a mess and I didn’t really have anything cute or very flattering for a new mom, which likely contributed to my Schlumpadinkaville dilemma. You might be in the opposite boat and need more work options, so I’ll be doing a post on that soon. I know as a working woman how challenging it can be to come up with exciting outfits on repeat, so I’ll put together some of what worked for me back then soon.
For now, the point is just to go through your closet and figure out what fits and what’s flattering and start there. For example, find a pair of jeans that you look and feel good in, then just change out your look by adding different tops, sweaters, shoes/boots/booties, and accessories.
Since it’s winter now, a few sweaters and some colorful or patterned scarves will make you look pulled together, even if you’re wearing the same jeans and shoes.
Below is a variation on the same look from above, just using a different colored top and changing out the heels for booties and the leopard scarf for a plaid one.
If you prefer a tall boot, this pair
is awesome (and fit true to size). They have a 3 1/4 inch heel, not too chunky, and I wore them comfortably for several hours while running errands. Or try these if you like a lower heel
Below is the same boots and necklace, just with a different sweater and white jeans.
I also swear by a couple of great, chic tee shirts that are casual and easy to wear, but don’t look frumpy. You can dress them up with accessories or layer them under a jacket, cardigan or sweater.
One of my favorite tees is by Halogen and I don’t see the exact one currently available, but it looks like they have a new jersey v-neck tee
that is silky soft and flattering (and comes in several colors). Also in regular and petite.
Another good basic tee is by Caslon
and it’s also less expensive at $25, also in lots of colors (love the striped one!) and regular and petite.
4) FIND A HAIR STYLE/COLOR THAT FLATTERS YOUR FACE AND FITS YOUR LIFESTYLE
I used to have a terrible cut/color that looked awful on me. I grew up blonde as a kid, but as I got older, my hair got darker. I hated having to go get my roots done every 6 weeks (my hair grows fast), so I tried going dark brunette thinking that I’d be done with the constant trips to the hairdresser. Wrong! The brunette faded rather quickly and I realized I’d have to continue to get it darkened until all the blond grew out, making for just as much maintenance.
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For a long time, I had a weird “in between” brown/blond color until I finally realized that, although it’s a commitment, blond looks best on me. I get a combo of highlights and lowlights to keep it from looking too solid blonde – I like the dimension of blending the colors and have gone to the same colorist for most of my adult life, my good friend Renee.
I also used to have super long hair that I dreaded fixing most days, especially in the dog days of summer in Houston when it was so hot. A couple years ago, I chopped it to about shoulder length and haven’t looked back. It’s so much easier to fix now and I think it flatters my petite frame much better. Many of you have asked for a hair curling tutorial and so I’ll do one for you soon.
5) USE MAKEUP TO PLAY UP YOUR GORGEOUS FEATURES
A makeup-free face is fine and I’m not saying you need to get all dolled up to workout (I usually workout with no makeup, maybe just mascara), but makeup can really enhance your features and take you from schlumpadinkaville to hot mama in about 10-15 minutes.
I swear by highlighting and contouring, a good brow pencil, mascara, eyeliner, blush and lipstick with a touch of lipgloss. I feel like this photo below, even though a tad blurry, shows a good example of what makeup can do for your face and how it can accentuate your features.
I don’t usually wear foundation, but have heard great things about this one. For me, the pressed powder is enough or possibly a dab of tinted SPF30 moisturizer.
I used to never wear blush (I guess I didn’t think it was necessary), but now I see that it adds a youthfulness to your face and takes away that flat look. The NARS Hot Sand and Orgasm blush and bronzer is a good one for achieving that fresh look. It’s not essential, but a sweep of “the multiple stick” right at the top of your cheekbones will help reflect the light and give your face a nice shimmer. You can use this one on your eyes, lips and body too.
It’s good to break out of your lip color rut too. It wasn’t until my friend Audrey strongly suggested I try a red lip that I got out of my pale pink lipstick stage. Now I love adding a bolder lip color. It really wakes up your face and is flattering! I love a matte lipstick for the long-lasting wear but if it’s too matte and I want some shine, I’ll add a dab of lipgloss to the top center and bottom lips.
Even if you’re going out super casual, makeup will still help you feel confident and fresh.
6) HAVE FUN! & DON’T PUT PRESSURE ON YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT
Just be the best version of you that you can be! I can remember being out with a single guy friend years ago and asking him what type of woman he was attracted to. His response stuck with me over the years. He said he didn’t necessarily have a type and he wasn’t always attracted to the prettiest girl in the room or the most fit, but rather, he always appreciated a woman that he could tell was making the most of what she’d been given and who had put in the effort to be her best self. He remarked that he liked it when he could tell a women took care of herself because it said something about how she’d like to be treated and would probably treat others.
A happy woman is a beautiful woman! Here’s to all of you beautiful ladies and to leaving Schlumpadinkaville behind! 😉
HAPPY NEW YEAR FRIENDS!
I hope all your wishes come true!