Good morning Monday! I hope you had a fantastic weekend. Mine was really good. We kept it low key while taking a break from Instagram and Stories to be with friends on Friday night and then celebrate my Dad’s birthday with my family on Saturday. Sunday was a much needed day of rest! I did some Fall decorating and I can’t wait to show you that soon!
Now I’m thinking, how in the world is it October tomorrow?! Fall and the upcoming holiday season are always times I look forward to and enjoy so much. I know the holidays will look a little different this year than it has in the past, but I’m certain that there will be lots of love and fun and laughter with my kids, family and friends.
If you follow me on Stories or subscribe to my Weekend Newsletter, you may have heard my life update on Friday. But for those of you that only read my blog, of course I wanted to open up and share it here too.
My divorce was finalized last week. I’ve been going through this difficult time in my life for exactly one year, but due to a Court order, I wasn’t allowed to discuss it on any form of social media. It wasn’t a secret and I hadn’t been wearing my ring, but I just wasn’t allowed to talk about it.
I know that many of you have felt that something was different or even suspected that I was going through a divorce, but you gave me GRACE and love and supported me from afar. For that I will be forever grateful. I’m glad that I am finally able to let you in on this portion of my life. Maybe things make a little more sense now.
I know this is a lot to digest if you hadn’t realized that this was going on in my life. I tried to hold my head high, stay positive, and be strong for myself and my kids. By the grace of God, they are doing really well and I am too. There have been many painful days, anger and grief – and that is all part of the process. I’ve dealt with those emotions privately and adhered to the court order, not saying a word about it on my blog or any social media before I was allowed.
Through prayer, reading, journaling, meditating, and exercising my ass off, I’ve been able to let out the emotions that come when you go through such a life altering change. I have also learned to lean on my family and friends and accept their unconditional love and support. Going through this experience has actually brought me closer to my friends as I let them be there for me. What a gift that has been.
I’ve gone through so many stages of grief over this last year, and now there is some relief that things are final. I know there is still a long road ahead, but you know me, I’m gonna be hopeful for the future and expect that God has great plans for me and the kids.
I also wish my ex-husband well and hope that this is the beginning of a new, better relationship for us as parents. I would never want my kids to read or hear anything other than positive things about their Dad because they are half him, and they are pretty great!
Even though I’m doing well now, I wasn’t spared the trauma of divorce. I have wounds and scars and still sleep on ‘my side’ of the bed. Had you peeked in on me at various times during this last year, you might have seen a woman who struggled to get out of bed some days due to dread and anxiety, or that was so dead tired and often fell asleep at 7pm. I’ve snapped at my kids and found out that showers are good escapes for bawling your eyes out.
But time and space and healing.
A year is a long time to have been going through this and I’ve done a lot of work to get to a better place during that time. I’m entering October with hopefulness for the future.
You often hear me say “thank you” but I really want you to FEEL it this time. Since sharing this life update on Stories and in my Weekend Newsletter, I have literally been brought to tears – crying while reading your words – overwhelmed by the outpouring of support and positive messages. You continue to lift me up as good girlfriends always do.
It’s especially helpful to hear from those of you that have gone through divorce also and have come out stronger and happier than before. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Many of you have found strength you didn’t know was there and the journey of self discovery has been liberating. I’m finding that for myself too.
Keep on keepin’ on.
One day at a time.
Heal, grow, and learn.
I’ll continue to show up here for you and keep blogging away, sharing fashion, fitness and decor like I always do. It’s time for my monthly rewind and it felt appropriate to end September with this life update so that we can start fresh tomorrow on October 1.
Thank you again from the bottom of my heart for your kindness, support, love and prayers.
From Lawyer to Blogger
I was really surprised by how much interest y’all had in my lawyer to blogger story. See, I’m learning to open up and share more. 😉 In Part 1, you met the encouraging people that I largely credit for helping me get to law school.
And in Part 2, I shared my journey of how I actually started my blog and turned it into a full time career.
I rounded up all the outfits I’ve been wearing lately, which I hope will serve as a wardrobe inspiration for your own closet.
I shared some of my tips for transitioning Summer to Fall Outfits, even when the hot weather is still looming. We’re supposed to drop down to the 80’s soon and that will be cause for celebration!
Ya’ll have been asking how I find so many Amazon keepers, so I spilled the beans and shared my pro shopping tips here.
Your September Amazon Faves
I love seeing what YOU love each month, and here are your September favorites!
Camo Pullover • love the color combo!
Leggings • comfy, opaque and last forever – only $17!
Color Block Pullover • lightweight and easy to throw on
Checkered Bag • a Louis Vitton dupe for under $50 and super sturdy- I just ordered the brown one too!
Leopard Cardigan • the perfect stylish cardigan for Fall!
Your September Loves
Here’s what ya’ll are loving this month:
Leopard Flats • come in a cute tiger pattern as well
Wedge Sneaker • super practical and comfy
Scalloped Tank • 4 fun colors and patterns
Camo Joggers • dress these up or down
HEALTH & FITNESS
I partnered with HUM Nutrition to share some of the vitamins and supplements I’ve started taking on a daily basis. I have always felt overwhelmed with where to start with vitamins other than a multi, but this 3-minute quiz makes it so easy!
Cari and I are thrilled to have the Get Fit Done Meal Plan live and ready for purchase! For a limited time, the Meal Plan will be offered for just $19, before it goes up to the $29 full price.
JUST (THE BEST) SEPTEMBER SALES
Everyone loves a good deal and I don’t mind doing the scouring for ya! Here are the top 5 sale items of the month.
Barefoot Dreams Cardigan • under $60 and normally $108!
Ripped Jeans • 30% off
Utility Joggers • Super comfy and now 60% off!
Red Midi Dress • Perfect for a holiday party and only $30
This was a long one friends, I hope you made it this far!
Now go kick Monday’s booty and I will too! 😉