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Good Monday morning friends! I hope y’all had a fabulous weekend and are looking forward to this fresh, new week.
Everyday, I’m grateful to receive messages from you commenting on my positive attitude. For today’s post, I wanted to dive into that because my true passion for this blog is to inspire you to ‘take care of YOU’. If you’ve been with me for long, you know that mantra was passed down to me from my Grandma Nola and I want to pay it forward.
I’m a positive person by nature and I’m sure that shows through when you see me on Stories or visit me here. That doesn’t mean I’m always happy, my kids don’t talk back, or that I’ve been spared the gut wrenching pain of loss.
I’m also no Pollyanna. I know that being positive isn’t always as simple as looking on the bright side. I think it can be more complicated than that because sometimes we are really in the pit and it’s freaking hard to be positive when you’ve been there for months or years and don’t see a way out. You can’t just smile your way out of it. You need to dig deeper. You need to trust in your gut that everything’s gonna be okay. In general, and in whatever you’re going through right now.
I certainly don’t have everything figured out and I do have my down days and negative thoughts. I’m not immune from worry, anxiety, jealousy, or stress.
In writing this post, I wanted to give you some concrete takeaways that would be useful to you if you’re struggling in your own life or just want to add more positivity to your days. I thought about the top things that help me stay positive, especially when I’m having a hard time.
RELY ON YOUR FAITH TO SUPPORT YOU
Having a personal relationship with God allows me to know that, even when I’m scared, confused, hurt, and don’t have things figured out, He’s got me in the palm of His hand. He has a hope and future for me that is beyond what I can see myself.
If I’m really struggling and take the time to get into His Word, turn on the worship music, get on my knees and pray, and/or just be still and wait to hear that voice of the Holy Spirit, I’m always better for it. My attitude of worry and despair and depression and anxiety lifts and I know to Trust Him. Trust myself.
I don’t think you have to be a regular church goer to have a strong relationship with God. But, a good church home can be an extra blessing when there are people and programs to lift you up and love you through life’s disappointments.
I’ve gotten back into going to church again and I’m loving it. I’m always so moved while I’m there and it’s such a good feeling of being in His loving arms. A huge peace overcomes me and I’m so thankful for that. I always cry during the worship time, but it’s not a bad thing. Sometimes it’s just tears of being so grateful that I can feel so connected to God.
It’s a great start to the week to wake up, get dressed up for church and spend the morning praising God and hearing a message of hope.
Throughout this post, I’ll share some Sunday Best looks all from Nordstrom. Any of these outfits you can order online with FREE shipping or same day pickup at the store. If they don’t work out, no worries, they have FREE returns via mail also. I really love that about Nordstrom!
SWEAT OUT A BAD MOOD
I’ve said it many times here before, but one way to quickly change my attitude is to exercise. I can go from grumpy and anxious to feeling hopeful and inspired in the span of a 30 minute run.
Add music to it and I’m even feeling energetic and optimistic! It’s really amazing what that can do for you. Even when you don’t feel like exercising, heck- especially then. Just do it!
Boho meets maxi dress with this one and I’m not mad about it! I love the lace panel and crochet neck details, along with the creamy white color- perfect for summer.
It’s lined to mid-thigh, then allows your skin to peek through at the bottom.
Dress Fit : This one comes in regular, petite, and plus sizes and I’m in a 2P, without having to alter the length when wearing wedges.
GET ENOUGH SLEEP
One surefire way to get a cranky woman is to sleep deprive her. It’s nearly impossible to be in a good mood when you are exhausted.
Sometimes, when my days are jam packed and I get the kids to bed, I want to fall asleep immediately, but I also want to stay up and have some down time to myself. It’s a similar conundrum when you’re in the newborn stage and it’s time for their nap. Do you nap along with them or get stuff done?
Go for the nap. Always choose sleep.
ASK FOR HELP
Many times the reason we’re feeling negative is because we’re overwhelmed. There’s a million responsibilities and not enough time and it frankly stresses us out. That’s where we need to either: 1) get help, 2) say no more, or both.
Help comes in many forms. One was the book I mentioned in my June Loves post. I was starting to feel discouraged about Jordan’s behavior and my own reaction to it. Her – whiny, testing boundaries, not doing what she was told and me – yelling or losing my patience. So I started reading and researching about how to deal with it in a more positive and constructive way. I remembered the book I read when James was a toddler and rereading it has already made a huge difference. I’m much more calm in dealing with my threenager now.
Also, for James’ camp this summer, I’m sharing carpool duties with Jamie and Ali-Shaun. It’s been such a lifesaver, espeically considering the camp isn’t close to our homes. Coming together and sharing the responsibility reduces our workload and frees us up to do other things. #ittakesavillage
Always #teamjumpsuit and this one is no exception! I love the wrap style culotte pants and gorgeous aqua/cream stripe combo. It buttons inside and ties at the waist to keep the top closed. I appreciate the pockets and it’s fully lined.
Jumpsuit Fit : Fits TTS, I’m wearing an XS, but a petite would fit even better.
TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF
We hopefully all have that one friend that really knows how to talk us off a cliff when we’re spinning. I’m lucky to have several of those women in my life, but an extra special one is my friend Karen. One of the things she always reminds me when I call her all confused and anxious is – we don’t have to have all the answers right now. When I sit back and take that in, the situation loses intensity and I’m left feeling better about it.
I’m getting better at being “okay” in the midst of the storm and knowing that when the solution presents itself – and it always does – I’ll be open to it and better able to act on it then.
YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF HOW YOU FEEL & REACT
Certain situations may be out of your control, but how you react to them is within your control. In theory, this is a simple concept, but it can be difficult to live out. For now, just try being mindful of this. When something happens, pause for even a second before immediately reacting.
It doesn’t happen often, but occasionally someone will send a rude comment my way. It used to upset me for up to two full days when I would read something like that. I’d get on the phone with other blog friends who could relate and hash it out, “who does that?!” and then feel bad about myself, feel angry that I let it get to me, and feel annoyed that I gave it so much energy. #dumbdumbdumb
Now, it might still sting in the moment, but I try to turn it around and say a genuine blessing for that person and move on with my day. I don’t even respond publicly. They don’t need to know they’ve been blessed, but hopefully they feel it in the world and treat other people with more kindness moving forward.
I prefer to give my energy to the lovely people who support and encourage me. I feel it’s a disservice to those kind souls if I give more weight to the single negative comment than the hundreds of positive ones!
How fun is this dress?! It works as well for the office or brunch as it does for the Sunday service. The higher neckline allows you to show off a necklace, and then it has a flirty flutter sleeve. The little pom poms on the front actually lead to a tie belt in the back.
Dress Fit : TTS, I’m wearing 2P
Focusing on the good things and the blessings in your life will help you stay in an attitude of thankfulness and positivity. Even the negative things can turn out to be blessings. Remember that Garth Brooks song, “Unanswered Prayers”?
Many years ago, there was a lawyer job I was this.close to getting and it fell through. It seemed so perfect, a great firm, big salary, lots of opportunity. And then it suddenly didn’t work out.
Originally, I was so distraught and felt like I’d never find another legal job. And you know what? I didn’t. I’ve been blogging full time ever since.
What a blessing it was that God closed that door! The things that seem like the worst, can turn out to be the best. Or at least there’s a reason God allowed that situation to happen. He’ll use it for good in the future. I’m so much happier now with my flexible schedule blogging getting to talk to y’all than I ever was as a lawyer.
It’s a similar situation with my family. The struggles I went through as a kid helped shape my destiny because I knew I did not want that hardship in my own life as an adult.
I can look back on those times when I changed schools every year as a blessing that helped me learn how to make new friends when my old ones were left behind. My mom is the same way; she always kept a positive attitude, even when things were tough. We struggled financially, but no matter how tight things were, she always expressed gratitude that we were healthy and together, with a roof over our heads.
As parents, our kids are always watching and learning from us, and I’m thankful that those are some of the core messages I learned from my Mom. I hope to inspire that in my own kids.
Y’all really liked this top and skirt combo when I shared it on Stories a couple weeks ago. It looks like a dress, but it’s really two pieces! I was incredibly comfortable in it for church and then lunch later with my friend Trisa.
The skirt is fully lined with pockets and a tie waist and the top has a sassy one-shoulder ruffle.
Fit : TTS, I’m wearing XSP in both the top and skirt.
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TREAT YOURSELF LIKE YOU WOULD YOUR BEST FRIEND
Think of yourself as your own best friend. Be kind to her and never talk to her ugly! Instead of criticism, give her grace. Take care of YOU! If you make a mistake (we all do) ask for forgiveness and then move on. Build yourself up so that you can become a happier, more positive person.
Then, you’ll be able to radiate that light to others, just by being that one of a kind YOU!
These kinds of posts are always challenging for me to write because I don’t want them to come across as chirpy. There are so many nuances and no easy answers for the serious, hard stuff in life. But what’s beautiful is that we have been blessed with this life to live and love and we get a new chance to do it everyday.
If you want to be more positive, you can change that about yourself. It’s a matter of attitude and perspective and allowing yourself to live that way.
You are a creative, compassionate and loving person. You have everything you need inside you to live a life you love. I pray that we all get to experience the fullness of joy that God wants us to have in our lives!
I hope y’all have a fantastic day! Let me know in the comments if you want to see more posts like this in the future!