I realized I’ve been asking myself a lot lately, “What’s the most important thing?” And I don’t mean in a “let’s ponder the meaning of life” kind of way. Of course, our health, spiritual walk, relationships and children all top the list of those most important things in our lives. What I’m talking about is more practical: What’s the most important thing that needs to get done today? Because that one thing is all I might have time for now that we have a two-month old in the house.
All moms (and especially new moms) understand the struggle to try to accomplish anything when you have a baby (or more) at home. Just getting yourself showered and ready for the day can be a major challenge and accomplishment! I’m lucky to have my mom help for a good 4 hours a day during the week, so that frees up a good chunk of time to get things done, but last week she couldn’t make it due to all the flooding in our area. And even when she’s here, I still don’t have time for everything I’d like to do.
I typically have a list a mile long of things I need and want to get done in a day. There are daily chores, laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep, keeping up with our son’s school commitments, homework, sports, and always blogging, photographing, currently trying to pull everything together for the One Room Challenge, and not to mention getting in a few workouts each week and trying to stay organized. It’s a lot to juggle. I’m sure I’m no different from you, who feel like, when one area is thriving, we might be dropping the ball in another. Baby is all good!! Rest of the house needs work! . . . Son is doing great at school!! I could stand to lose 10 pounds. . . . Laundry’s all done!! I haven’t slept 8 hours straight in over 8 weeks!
Recently, I felt like I was getting so stressed out and frustrated with never being able to get the things done that I’m used to doing. I had to take a step back and gently remind myself, we have a new baby now! Things are different. Life is different. This may be our new normal for a while and in order to not go crazy, I have to adjust and stop struggling to have things be the way they were before. Basically, surrender to life’s ebbs and flows.
I certainly don’t want to resent the baby we are so very blessed to have. I’m in love with her hard and she is as darling and precious and sweet as they come. Everyday, I can physically feel my love for her growing. I just needed to adjust my expectations for each day to fit within the realm of what’s really possible to accomplish. It’s so easy to say, “Enjoy this time with your baby. It goes so fast. You’ll never get this time back.” I agree with all of that, but our family still needs to eat. We have to go to the grocery store and prepare food. Laundry needs to get done. Bills have to be paid.
So, now, I’ve been asking myself, “what’s the most important thing that needs to be done today? and just focusing on that one thing. If I can get that one thing done, I call it good. It’s been saving my sanity and helping me relax. And don’t get me wrong, I’m not all that uptight all the time. 😉 I can relax with the best of them and definitely DO enjoy my kids. We have lots of fun together!
Tuesday – blog / write Wednesday & Thursday blog posts
Wednesday – grocery store / meal prep (usually Sundays and Wednesdays)
Thursday – write Friday’s blog post
Friday – (no school) / take kids to the park for a picnicPlanning just one thing to accomplish each day doesn’t mean I can’t do more if time and energy allow (it could happen!), it’s just that I’m working on prioritizing so that nothing falls through the cracks. I still use my Master List for a major brain dump of ALL the things I want to do, and refer to it often.